At Wise Mediation, we know that inadequate communication is the leading cause for human conflict, including family conflict. Without communication, behavior and relationships can be strongly affected in a negative way, and it is well-documented that this can lead to criminal behavior. Based on this, it seems logical to bring parents and troubled teens together to talk, with the possibility of bringing about behavioral changes in the home.
Before Nancy owned Wise Mediation, she worked as Executive Director of Dispute Resolution Services (DRS) for six years. This Agency had a juvenile justice offender program that brought the juvenile together with the person or persons that he or she had offended. This proved to be a very successful and effective program. Of course, our parent-teen mediation solutions are not only for those who have broken the law. They can be used for situations in the home between family members as well.
Conflicts at Home
If your relationship with your son or daughter is conflicted, Nancy can make arrangements for a “safe meeting” with all involved to meet together to discuss the areas of disagreement. You will each have the opportunity to openly share your concerns. Based on our proven track record, you will walk away with a mutually agreed-upon resolution and a plan for your future together.
If your child is incarcerated and will be returning home, Nancy can make the arrangements for a “safe” meeting with the involved family members. In this process, you can openly discuss unresolved problems from the past and design how you will live together in the future.
After learning of this concept and its value as the Executive Director of Nueces County Dispute Resolution Center, Nancy contacted the local Juvenile Justice Center. They jointly launched this program at the Juvenile Boot Camp in Corpus Christi, a county program. The youths were incarcerated for eight months and went through stiff rehabilitation, both for substance abuse and to alter negative behavioral patterns.
The program took place near the end of their stay. The parents would come to the boot camp and meet with their sons or daughters in their mediation setting. The mediation focused on how they were going to live together now that the young person had had this rehabilitation experience. They talked about chores, freedom limits, house rules, and more. The environment was safe for them to say things that they had never been able to say before. In one instance, a mother came to the mediations drunk, and her 14 year-old son lovingly confronted his mother about her addiction. This showed how young people were being educated about life skills and how to effectively use them.
The boot camp personnel reported changes in the youths’ behavior as early as the day following the mediation. Because long-standing family behavior patterns were being changed, Nancy realized that they needed time to process this new information. Therefore, Nancy would meet with them in multiple sessions. They were basically learning a new form communication and how to feel safe with each other. They had finally been able to talk freely and safely with their parents.